The Karma Series – Law Nine

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9. The Law of Here and Now

“Looking back to examine what was prevents us from being totally in the HERE and NOW. Old thoughts, old patterns of behavior, old dreams, prevent us from having new ones.”

Nostalgia is a dusty rose vignette around memories black and grey. It blurs the edges of what we remember, it forces us to see things with a tinge of remorse for what was, rather than gaze on them at face value. Nostalgia can make you yearn for things that once were, even if when you had them they were of no value to you at all.

Thoughts of what have been, tend to turn into thoughts of what could be. Euphoric recall, is the term. And it will eat you alive. Constantly focusing on what could have been, making something out to be more than it was, better than it was. Firsthand, I still do this. This is one of the laws that most resonates with me because it is one that I can learn the most from.

If we are constantly going back and analyzing the events of the past, memorizing as not to let go, obsessing in order to possibly gain back, how are we creating a better future? It is a lost cause, trying to change the hands of time. The only thing you have control over is what is right in front of you, that is it. You can choose what you do right now, and if you choose wisely, chances are you will not have to look back and wonder. If you are constantly looking back, you will never have the chance to choose wisely.

Here we are. Right now. In this moment, we will never ever be again. We have each second to make something with. The seconds, the minutes, the days, the years that we have seen are already lost. There is no getting them back. And to be blunt, if you are living your life right, you shouldn’t want them back.

It takes longer than people would like, but you end up in places because you are meant to be there. People end up in your life because they are meant to be there. Think about that. YOU are in someone’s life because you have the opportunity to make it better. YOU are in this position in the Universe, because at this point in time it is where the world can benefit from you the most. Take advantage of that, live in the here and now.

Breathe in deep and love every atom that creates the moment you exist in right now, because you will never be here again. And why not make the absolute best of it?

 

 

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The Karma Series – Law Eight

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8. The Law of Giving and Hospitality

“If you believe something to be true, then sometime in your life you will be called upon to demonstrate that truth. Here is what we put what we SAY we have learned into PRACTICE.”

Or, as my dad would say “Practice what you preach.” With social media, new trends appearing daily, the next big thing constantly around the corner, I think it is getting harder to BELIEVE in something, and really stick to it. Believing in something can make the world of difference for some, but it is when your actions mirror your beliefs that change truly occurs for you.

There are people that want to be happy, they believe they can be happy. But they focus on negativity, they hold grudges, they stay away from the things that they love. If you believe in something, do the things that support that belief.

I believe in giving, I believe in nurturing and kindness. So I give every single thing that I have. It doesn’t have to be simply material. If I can care for someone at all, I will do it. And as much as it makes the people around you feel good, it make you feel even better.

Give more, and ask for less.

The Karma Series – Law Seven

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7. The Law of Focus

You can’t think of two things at the same time. You should climb up a ladder one step at a time. When you lose your focus, you let in insecurities and anger.”

What’s important to you? Most people would answer that question with, “family, my career, my spouse or significant other, having a roof over my head,” things of that nature. Now, what’s distracting you? What’s getting you down, frustrating you? A lot of times the things that are dragging us down, are not the things that are truly important to us. As a society, we tend to focus on things that aren’t as important as we make them out to be. We also tend to multitask. In my opinion, multitasking isn’t a bad thing. I do believe that you have to know how to do it effectively, or you will end up doing all of the things that you were doing at the same time over again. I like to multitask knowing that my different tasks are leading me to the same end goal. That way, you are getting more done, but not losing track of what you want. You are honing in on one single outcome, while accomplishing multiple things in one time frame. If you can though, it is always better to do something step by step, inch by inch. I wish I did that more with my writing. If I chose to put every ounce of time into writing, every penny I had into it. If I had gone to school for English, and gotten freelance jobs while working on a novel – I would most likely have a book published by now. But we are human, we have many different interests, concerns and desires. Writing is  something I have always wanted to have more time to focus on, more time to indulge in. I fully believe that by following this law of Focus, I could have had what I want.

Figure out what you want, and make it your focus.

The Karma Series – Law Six

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6. The Law of Connection

“Even if something we do seems inconsequential, it is very important that it gets done as everything in the Universe is connected. Each step leads to the next step and so forth and so on. Someone must do the initial work to get a job done. Neither the first step or the last are of greater significance – they were both needed to accomplish the task. Past..Present..Future…they are all connected.”

This law means a lot of different things to me. I’ll try to hone in on one aspect of it for the sake of not boring you…

Do something today that may not seem like it “needs” to be done. More than likely, you will be glad that you did it. Be nice to everyone. Don’t judge others. What may seem like the cool thing to do, or the easy way out actually might hurt you in the future. So be a good person, always, to everyone. Even when you want to hate them, love them harder. One day, you will get it back. This is a bit off topic, but for years on the holidays I paid the person’s toll behind me (I should probably join 2016 and get an EZpass…) This year, I forgot to bring any small change with me. Believe it or not, when I needed it most – someone actually paid mine. Yes, it’s a dollar. But more than that, it would have meant taking a 30 minute detour at 10pm on a 2 hour trip home if that person hadn’t paid my toll. Thanks person!

I digress – but everything is connected. What you do today, affects what you do tomorrow – affects the way the world works tomorrow. Think of it like this…Planting seeds in the dead of winter when the soil is hard and cold, your fingers are cracking and the warmth of inside is tempting you. You plant them, expecting nothing. One day months later, the first week of weather in the high 60’s… you see those blooming flowers, experience their fragrance, and just their beauty makes your day.

Do things good, and good things will happen.

You may not know it, but the universe has a plan for you.

The Karma Series – Law Five

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5. The Law of Responsibility

“Whenever there is something wrong, there is something wrong in me. We mirror what surrounds us, and what surrounds us mirrors us; we must take responsibility for what is in our life.”

Too many people, too many times cannot see how their own actions got them to where they are presently. Whether good or bad, it is you who needs to take responsibility for your current situation. There are things that I hate to admit to, but admitting to them and learning from them are the only way you will grow. I am responsible for myself. If I did not complete a task at work, it was not because someone put too much on my plate, it is because I did not prioritize correctly and I can work on that next time. If someone takes advantage of me time after time, it’s because I let them. Taking responsibility forces you to look at something for what it is and not from your own biased perspective. My generation especially is so eager to find a scapegoat. I’ve seen people who have been caught cheating even blame the messenger because they are too caught up in thinking they are “the victim” they cannot see how badly they are hurting the people around them. Pretty logical, right?  Just know what you are capable of, and what you are not. Own up to those deficiencies, and work on them positively. You are the only person who can affect your own life. But just as you need to accept the repercussions for something you may have done wrong, you also need to be able to let yourself receive praise for the things you have done right. You met your deadline because you are organized and efficient. You are happy, because you have made others happy.

If you are looking for a reason as to why things are the way they are,

Stop  projecting, and look within yourself.

The Karma Series – Law Four

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4. The Law of Growth

“Wherever you go, there you are. For US to grow in SPIRIT, it is WE who must change, and not the people, places or things around us. The only given we have in our lives is ourselves, and that is the only factor we have control over. When we change who and what we are within our heart, our life changes too.”

Society, nature, our minds, our bodies, ourselves all revolve around evolution. If we choose to stop evolving, we are operating at a slower pace than the rest of the world. How, in that case, would it be possible for us to achieve anything? If we are resistant to change, we are ignorant to the world around us. Nothing in your life will ever stay the same, as it should be, as you shouldn’t expect it too. In order for you and I to be okay with those changes, to accept things as they are, we must adapt to our surroundings. I do personally believe it is not our whole selves who change when we adapt. I think we are created with a core belief system and that those beliefs are within us at all times throughout our lives, but they can be nurtured or neglected in separate situations. By adapting to the things we cannot control, we are not going against our core beliefs, we are not going against who we are. What we are doing, is evolving those beliefs and evolving the person we have become. Some changes are easier to accept than others, but if you are able to go with the flow, and be open to the constant motion of life, the path you are on will be easier to travel down.

After all, the only constant is change.

The Karma Series – Law Three

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3. The Law of Humility

“What you refuse to accept, will continue for you. If what we see is an enemy, or a character trait that we find to be negative, then we ourselves are not focused on a higher level of existence.”

I have to admit this is a tough one. I refuse to accept things if I think they can be better. I try my best to understand everyone’s intentions, no matter what their actions may show. But there is this one person, this one situation, that just doesn’t make sense to me and never will. It’s hard trying to decipher what someone else views as reality when they are clearly unstable, and delusional. For the longest time I didn’t want to accept this situation because I wanted to make it better. I think a lot of people do that, even with something different like a break up. I tried all I could to help the situation through conversation and understanding, then by silence, and then finally months later I finally tried to alleviate the situation by for once fighting back, by standing up for myself and for my relationship.

I thought it was only fair that her husband know she was sending obsessive messages, thousands of them to my boyfriend, posting on social media constantly about the two of us, paying strangers to give her information on our lives. I thought if she could focus on her own relationship, maybe she would stop trying to live vicariously through mine. Guess what? She didn’t. And still hasn’t. She is married with children, and the age of my mother, and is still trying to ruin the healthy and happy relationship I have with my boyfriend. I have realized that there is something internally not balanced within her, and the best way to make sure my family is safe is for her to not be aware of our existence.  I’ve made my social media pages private so no strangers can view things about my family and I, which was a really good decision. I feel more comfortable knowing that I am not inviting negativity into my life.

I’m going into these details because I need you to know exactly HOW bad something can be, but you can still let it go. My life is only mine, and it’s no one’s business but mine. What I know though, is that I did my best to try and fix it. You can’t fix a mindset that you don’t understand, and really it’s not your job. If you are struggling with something similar, you have to accept them, or accept the situation for what it is. It may seem like someone is living an alternate reality, not seeing eye to eye with anything you know as good and fair, but it’s your job to accept that there is nothing you can do but accept it as it is. This blog post, is how I am learning to accept it.

You shouldn’t hate what you can’t understand. Despite my constant urge to learn and to know, the best thing you can do is to accept something or someone for their differences.

As I have accepted these things, I have realized I no longer try to control them. Which in turn, erases my stress and anger. It’s extremely hard to be the bigger person in many different situations, but there are a very select few who are strong enough to do so. Strong is not evil and violent, strong is not hatred and retaliation. Strong is knowing yourself enough to know that no words can change your interpretation of you. Strong is being able to fight every urge you have to stoop to their level. Strong, is moving on. As long as you are still letting it affect you, you are the only one who is losing.

Moving on, and being happy with your life and with the way you handled things is the best revenge you can get. I turn my head from it. I control myself and the way I treat others, the energy I exude into the world. But you and I are only human, and we cannot control the actions of others.

The best we can do is accept, and let go.